How am I doing it? This is a key question that we often ask ourselves when we want to develop ourselves personally or professionally.

It is a difficult question to ask as we are often afraid of honest response from others. It requires courage and a firm purpose to grow as a person. In addition, it is a key issue in all aspects of our lives. So let us imagine what it would be to formulate from time to time, and with a respectful and honest curiosity, the following questions:

1488323222_interface-71How am I doing it as your partner?

1488323222_interface-71How am I doing as your mother / father?

1488323222_interface-71How am I doing it as your boss?

1488323222_interface-71How am I doing it as your neighbor?

Let us think only for a moment what this would mean for us and for others. Of course others would be surprised at our demand. In many cases they would be uncomfortable and not knowing what to say or how to start. And it’s not that they do not have things to tell us, they are just not used to be asked with these questions. That is why we have trouble formulating this question, since we know of the possible reaction of people. But with that said, in most cases the impression of others on our demand would be seen as a sign of respect and esteem towards them.

Who does not really appreciate the invitation that someone makes to live a better relationship in common?

In a coaching process, the coach (the participant) asks this same question many times. He or she does it to himself, and he does it to others, basically to those who share more the daily personal and professional life with him or her. And it does so from the beginning of its process of personal and professional development. It’s about looking at yourself in the mirror and looking at everything with more pause and detail. Making sure of recognize his aspects that he likes about him, but also he will realize what it is that wants to see it differently.

In the world of executive coaching we use different types of resources to offer a mirror to our clients. Sometimes these are 360º Feedback tools, which are online questionnaires where the people around the participant (bosses, colleagues, subordinates, clients, suppliers, etc.) anonymously value his performance in different Leadership Competencies or Team Work.

We also use assessment tools where a team, as it is done on an individual level, can get to see where its strength is as a group and where its biggest obstacles and limitations lie.

In short, it is a matter of asking ourselves from time to time how we do it to be able to become aware of our  ​​improvement and from there to be able to continue growing as people and as professionals, and thus to be happier in the different areas of our life, and to be able to make others happy.

Who does not want this?

Enric Arola